|Itís normal to get nervous
before a first date Ė especially when thereís a lot at stake. Menís magazines
like Esquire are full of pointers and how-toís for those who are not well
versed in the art of dating. These recommendations will help any guy to
woo the beautiful Sugar Baby heís been talking to on MutualArrangements.com.
Arranging the date: Call her; donít arrange a date over the internet
or text messages. Besides, hearing her voice over the phone will reduce
the nervous jitters on date night. Keep the conversation under 10 minutes
long. Do not proceed to tell her your life story; there will be time for
that later. And, when setting up a day and time for your first encounter,
remember that you will have a better chance of turning on the romantic
charm after sundown; daytime dates rarely result in a goodnight kiss.
Preparation: While tails are not necessary, a sports jacket or a nice
sweater might do you good: remember that first impressions are lasting
impressions. If you use cologne, donít use too much; you want to knock
her out figuratively, not literally. And, no: cologne is not a stand-in
for a shower. Show that youíre putting in an effort by matching your brown
belt to your brown shoes.
The Pick Up: Be punctual. If you say you will be there at 7, arrive
at 6:59. This shows your sincerity and ability to plan ahead. If you take
a cab, pay the fare in advance so she doesnít witness the exchange of money.
If you drive to her apartment, donít beep the horn; get out of the car
and use the doorbell. Some magazines suggest that flowers are out-dated,
but an understated token of your affection does speak for thoughtfulness.
When Together: Take her to a restaurant or bar where you will be sure
to be among the best looking guys in the room. Have your credit card on
hand and slip it to the Maitre D before you sit down. This is suave show
of chivalry underscores your money and class while also avoiding a distasteful
interruption by the waiter at the end of the meal. Donít order for your
date; this tradition was outdated in 1920 when they gave women the right
Conversation: Do not talk about your ex. No matter how traumatic the
break up was, talking about your ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or ex-lover will
result in another traumatic scene with your current date. Also, treat your
dinner like a night at the theatre or music hall and turn off your cell
phone. Your buddies and business associates will just have to wait: she
is more important than they are.
Fine Dining: Donít eat with your fingers, donít play with your food,
and definitely donít eat off of her plate uninvited. Go one-for-one with
her on drinks: drinking too heavily will reflect poorly upon your restraint
and not drinking enough will make her feel uncomfortable. Additionally,
the question is not whether she wants dessert, it is what she wants for
dessert. (Women love chocolate.)
Ever After: Walk at her pace; womenís shoes were not designed for comfort.
Especially if itís raining, the man should always be on the street-side
of the sidewalk; a passing car could splash a puddle all over her nylons
and silk hemline. You can make the first move to kiss her, but, even if
she acquiesces, do not assume that you are invited insideÖ unless she explicitly
invites you. Call her not more than three days later to say hello, thank
her for the company and to make another date. If she does not pick up,
then ask her to call you back. If she does not call back, do not stalk
her; find a new